Oof…don’t we all just like to worry!? Whether it’s about our health, our finances, education, lifestyle or even something as silly as not having a thigh gap or smooth skin, everyone has something that can keep them up at night.
This is totally normal and sometimes even necessary because worrying about stuff can make us more agile and responsible. If there were no concerns, a lot of people would live carefree and ignorant lives so I guess worrying does have its benefits, so when does it become a problem?
Anxiety can be defined as a state of mental uneasiness, nervousness or apprehension about an uncertain event. It is synonymous with worrying, only on a much larger scale.
Frankly, it’s normal to be concerned about uncertainty, I mean..no one knows what tomorrow will bring right? but it’s also wise to add that worrying doesn’t help either. This is why I’ve decided to stop worrying too much and just let things he (and you should too).
I also want to share some of the tips that have helped me that I think can help you too (cause we all need help).
So without further ado, here are five steps you can start practicing today to help ease some of the stress.
1. Breathe (Because a lot of us forget to..)
Breathe? Like don’t we already do that? I mean we wouldn’t be alive if we didn’t so it’s clearly an essential for survival.
Yes but when I say breathe, I don’t just mean the basic inhalation and exhalation of air we do subconsciously by nature, I’m talking about staying still for a moment and actually feeling the air we are taking in and bringing out from our body.
Often times when we are worried, most of us tend to hyperventilate because the brain registers our troubles which transmits to our nervous system affecting even the way our heart pumps blood into our body. By being conscious of something simple as breathing, you allow your brain to focus on something thereby helping to dissipate some of those tension.
When you find yourself overwhelmed by how many things you have on your mind, it’s time to just sit down, arms around yourself, dissolve everything else and just breathe.
2. Make a list
They say the first step in fixing a problem is identifying the problem.
If you ask pretty much every human what they’re worried about right now, more than half of them won’t be able to put them into words because;
Most Of Us Don’t Even Know Why We Are Worried.
So why do we even worry?
The answer to that is simply because we’re human and it’s is part of our nature. What you can do is to actually discover and outline the reasons why you’re worried at any given time.
Like most things, one of my top advice is to write things out- Journaling like some may call it. Pour out your feelings on actual paper and be detailed in every possible way.
For example “I am worried about the test I have in three days. I’m worried because I may have read, but I still lack confidence and assurance and I really can’t afford to fail it.”
You will be surprised at how much weight will leave your shoulder when you write things out.
3. Ask Yourself Why.
While sometimes our pressing needs can be obvious, more than often we tend to worry about things that don’t even matter, so a good way to sort out real problems from the absurd ones is to ask yourself why.
Question each worry you’ve noted down and dive into thoughts why and how this really affects you because this will help you to check out all those irrelevant thoughts that live in our head for free.
This is the next best step because after jotting down all your worries and the reason behind them, you’ve probably seen that some of your reasons for being anxious aren’t as reasonable as you thought it was.
The best way to sort your worries based on their priority is to look at the short and long term effects of each of them. If it won’t matter in the long run, chances are it doesn’t matter that much.
If it won’t matter tomorrow, it probably doesn’t matter at ALL!
e.g Being worried about an online class you’re taking that may help you in your career path is definitely more important than being concerned about how many likes and followers you have on your tiktok or Instagram account (…unless you’re an “influencer” and that’s your major source of income. Otherwise, it’s a totally unnecessary worry. You’ll probably not even have an tiktok account in the next ten years!).
Just to be clear, I am not saying that’s it’s bad to be concerned about certain things that may not affect your future. Definitely live in the moment, have fun (..and a little worry too), but don’t let minor problems that stem from these extras keep you concerned for so long because they aren’t worth it.
5. Draft a Plausible Cause of Action
Again, be very detailed about this especially if it’s something that is really important. As usual, I’d recommend you write this out so that if you end up feeling overwhelmed at some point, while trying to execute your solution, you will have something to look on to.
For example, if I were worried about getting a new phone, a plausible cause of action would be to save up or get a new job so that I can be able afford a new one.
Similarly, if I’m worried about flunking my test and getting bad grades, a good cause of action would be to focus immensely on the topics that give me trouble. I can then increase my study time on those topics or even get a tutor.
I know, I know, it’s easier said than done but at least it’s better than doing nothing.
6. Take Action
This should be the final step to overcoming your worries and anxiety.
Don’t get too hard on yourself though, some solutions to your worries may take days or even years! Some of our worries come from bad habits in our lifestyle that we need to work on and they aren’t things that can be achieved in a few days so give yourself time.
It’s also ok and very much normal if your solutions don’t work at the first try. Sometimes what we think it’s good may not be the best and we simply have to look for another method of approach to solve our problems.
Don’t be afraid to overcome your fears, it won’t be easy but it’ll be worth it and always remember to ask for help if you need it.
Extra (7. Seek Professional Help)
If you’ve tried every else on this list, then I think it’s.time to seek professional help. Go to therapy or consult an expert. I get that not everyone wants to be treated as of they’re “crazy”, however, it’s something to consider if your sanity is at stake.
That’s it for this article, I hope you found these tips useful, do you have any additions or contributions? please leave them in the comment below.
Over To You; HAVE YOU EVER EXPERIENCED WORRY/ANXIETY? IF YOU HAVE, HOW DID YOU OVERCOME IT AND WHAT ARE SOME OF YOUR PERSONAL TIPS IN DOING SO.
(I’ll love to hear your stories and experiences:-))
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